Friday, July 23, 2010

My son is here.


We we're blessed to have a healthy baby boy on July 21st. 9.2 lbs, 19.5 inches. Mom and baby are great, and big sister is excited.
Psalm 127:3 (ESV)
3Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Educational Choice - Where I am at.


Well it's been a month since I've really been diving deep into the issue on where to send my kids to school. In this last month I've read books, looked up blogs, talked a bit to other parents, have had great talks with my wife, read articles and have been praying about this. In the end it is up to my wife and I to decide given all the information and prayer over this topic. We hope to decide by Christmas time on what direction we'll take.


A month ago I was at this point.... I was 90% leaning towards local public schools, giving a fair 5% and 5% to home/private school. This is where I am at personally. Public school numbers in my mind have shrunk just a tad....probably around 85%. Private school has jumped to 10%,with a growing appeal to me for a lot of reasons. Homeschool has stayed about the same.

I'll keep reporting on my blog where I am at, and ultimately where my wife and I are at on this decision.

Monday, July 19, 2010

Book Review # 3 - "Going Public: Your Child Can Thrive in Public School."


Grade: 99% ( A +)


Review: In a sea of books designed to equip and encourage Christian parents who lovingly choose homeschool , it is nice to see a book that encourages Christian families who lovingly choose public school. The really sad thing is I've only been able to find 2 books that help Christian families navigate the public school option. Nonetheless if you are investigating all the options out there this is a great book to read. Or if you are already in the public schools this is a book you must get.

The authors are Kelli and David Pritchard , really neat Christian parents of 8 kids who are all going through or have gone through public school. They don't target the other choices of private or home school , but rather uplift parents in the choice of public school. They start off with chapters like " Is Public School an Evil Plot?" and "What the Bible says about Education." Throughout the book the concept is repeated that they are their kids first teachers and the most important influence of their lives, worldviews, morals etc.


The book goes a bit into what I believe are some of the myths those in homeschool/private school movements portray on public schools as a whole. Myths like test scores in comparisons to other nations, that public school is evil etc. Regarding test scores many authors demanding we pull Christian kids out don't tell the whole truth. America is really one of the only nations that test everyone. Unlike other systems which weed kids out along the way, America keeps everyone along the way. The poor, the immigrant who doesn't speak English, racially diverse backrounds, socio-economic backrounds, stable and chaotic homes alike. Though they don't devote a huge portion to it , I think it was healthy to address.


The pillars of a successful public school career first start at home. The 3 most important things they instill and teach their kids are this....1. Love God with all your heart, they go into great detail in just how they disciple their kids and teach them about God. They even go into how God is involved in their education. 2. Obey unconditionally, kids who have learned to respect and obey at home thrive much better at school. There is so much truth to that. They firmly believe that teachers are an extension of their authority and they go into how to respectfully bring disagreements with teachers when they do happen. 3. Practicing Self Control, teaching kids to control themselves.


They go into a lot of detail on the teachable moments and how they're building a biblical frame for their family through them and their personal interactions. My personal favorite chapter is "Everybody should homeschool" , It's my firm belief that all parents are homeschoolers. They often tell people when they get asked if they homeschool ....."yes we homeschool, then we send them to public school to learn other things." They don't negate their authority because they choose schooling outside the home. The authors devote a chapter to how public schooling works best for families when their is a parent at home, the wife ( Kelli) goes into great detail regarding that issue and she really enjoys being a stay at home mom. They are also very fair in addressing single moms on this issue and what you ( the reader) can do to help.


I guess what I love most about this book is two things.... first that home should be base for all students and the parents are their number one teachers/impacts. 2nd that you as the parent are the majority stake holder in your child's education, not the teachers, not the administrators.

They write " Think about the sheer number of hours you get with your child compared to the number of classroom hours. If a student spends 6.5 hours in schools multiplied by 180 schooldays per year, that's 1,170 hours over a year's time. Meanwhile, parents have access to the other 9.5 hours of the school day, plus all the weekends, holidays and assorted vacations, including summer - a grand total of 4,670 hours. Do the math: School receives 20 percent of the "time pie" while parents control the others 80%. That is certainly a sizable advantage that cannot be overlooked."



The authors 100% believe that their kids number one job in public school is just to be a great kid in school. Not some "missionary" at 8 years old. However they have taught their kids to stand for what they believe and their kids have rubbed off on some of their non-believing friends. More importantly their kids have learned to respect those who don't believe like they do. The parents go into how they have built relationships with teachers and administrators ( even ones rough around the edges).


All in all they end the book with a "you can do this" to Christian parents. That all parents should follow the calling God gives, in their case public school. They remind the reader that God is very much in public school despite what some in education are doing. That you can have confidence and complete trust in God because he is sovereign, he is bigger than public schools.


The Impact on me: If you've been following the blog you know I am in doing a lot of research on how to best educate my kids. Still undecided.


This book is encouraging, it's the gold standard for really looking into the choice of public school and how your family can thrive inside of that choice. We often here the stat that 75% of Christian kids lose their faith after their freshmen year and this somehow is tied to public school attendance. I wonder what the stat is for kids who have been discipled or trained in the faith by their parents like the authors of this book have done. I have a hunch the majority of those kids weren't taught much by their parents.


Anyway it just encourages me that you don't have to have any guilt for choosing public school and that God is more interested in what's happening at home to support whatever educational method you choose for your children.







* I'll write another blog for where I am at in the decision making process of schooling for my kids.




* my next book I'll review is a book called "So you're thinking about homeschooling" which is a Focus on the Family sponsored book.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Sex Education in Montana for Kids in Kindergarten

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2010/07/15/pn.sex.ed.kindergarten.hln?hpt=T2


This is an issue I will never relent to public school should we as parents choose this route. If we decide to go the public school route I will opt my kids out of sex education. Not because I don't think there isn't good information, but it's information without values behind it.


In this particular case the school district is going against the will of parents and teaching material that is not age appropriate. Nor is it moral. What's even sadder is the commentary/analysis by these panelist on this program. Seriously they sound so lukewarm on protecting little ones. The mom on the panel has the attitude of "whatever the experts say I'll do." She doesn't know that she is the expert on her children?

Parents have forgotten their role as protectors in many avenues of society. Shoot adults in general used to protect younger kids in society. Specifically many parents ( not all) are detached from teaching their kids values and morals. Leaving it to the "world" to bring them up.

I believe sending kids to school(s) for formal training is a great thing. But it becomes a bad thing when parents don't have their kids on the radar at all times. ( kudo's to the parents protesting this decision in this Montana school district, I'll keep an eye if this is overturned or not)


The verse below reminds me of the panelist as well as the superintendent of this school. Very well meaning, nothing but good intentions, but very off base.


Ephesians 4:17 - 18 (NIV)

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So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

flip flopper

I am yet undecided from which type of schooling to educate my kids. But I was talking with other parents at church the other day who are largely in the same boat my wife are in. One day is public school is a fine option, the next is home school is really looking interesting, the next is private school is what we'll do. This isn't a decision I think parents should take lightly. To often I think we do.

So today I lean towards a private Christian school education. I genuinely like a traditional school setting. Many Christian schools offer teaching methods that work.... things that many public schools have thrown out the window. Not to mention how awesome it is that my kids can openly make Christ a part of their education! I also like that Christian schools aren't beholden to some heartless agency in Washington, D.C.

That's just how I am leaning today. I think public and home school options have some positives but I am not leaning those ways today. Still lots of research to do, more importantly lots of prayer. Thanks for reading.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Guest Blog # 3 Why We Homeschool



This is a wonderful blog I ran into via a google search. I often find most of the blogs I follow via google searches. Anyway here is the link if you want to follow or check out their blog.

http://nolongerconforming.blogspot.com

Why We Homeschool

Most of our friends and family know we homeschool, but while on a trip to recently we got asked several times... why? Truthfully, my answer depends on who asks. Sometimes a stranger asks (usually if we happen to be out during school hours). My answer to a complete stranger when we have approximately 15 seconds, while standing in the checkout line, is different than the answer I give a friend or family member who seems genuinely interested. Sometimes people ask only to argue and defend their choice to send their kids to school. I try to avoid these conversations because no amount of polite discussion is going to change minds on either side.

No matter who asks, though, it is always hard to answer. It is similar to the working mom/stay-at-home mom debate. There are emotions tied up in the discussion. I know what is right for my family and hope others are doing what is right for their family. Just because we homeschool doesn't mean we think you should. It isn't right for every family and that's okay. Now, do I think more families could do it and do it successfully? Absolutely.

I found this article awhile ago that listed ten good reasons to homeschool. As I read, I nodded in agreement the whole time. First, the author has different answers to "why" depending on who asks, just like I do. He also tries to avoid discussing it with some people:

I have found that it is often necessary to change the subject quickly, otherwise I’m stuck listening to total strangers defend their decision to place their kids in school, defend their need for two incomes, and then ask me if I’m worried about issues associated with my own children’s socialization experiences. It still amazes me that people I barely know will readily draw me into such intimate and personal discussions. And worse yet, the defensive nature of the conversation inevitably yields to the expression of guilt on behalf of the person who has children in school. Guilt, defense, and the probability that I’m messing up my children – all from somebody I may have just met.

So why do we homeschool? Our favorite short answer is that we don't want peers to be the biggest influence in our children's lives, but our long answer is much more than that. The author (from the above article) summed it all up much better than I ever could. You should really go read the whole article, but just in case you don't, here are a few highlights that hit the nail on the head:
Reason #3: Time. If I had to pick one phrase that summarily communicates why we homeschool, it would simply be "school is a waste of time." This isn’t to say that people don’t learn important things in school, or that school is a total and complete waste of time...

I would rephrase that to: a lot of time is wasted at school. Even parents who send their kids to school admit this. In school, classmates move as one through each grade. Are each of those children really at the exact same level? Are some kids being pushed along? Are some being held back? How much of each day is "busy work" only to have homework with the parents later anyway?
Reasons #4 & #5: Identity and Control... we want our children to develop clear pictures of their own individual intellectual identities, and we want them to know how to take full advantage of the fact that they are always in control of their own learning.
Somewhere along the line, I learned how to LEARN. More than anything I want that for my children. You might not know everything, but you know a way to find out. My most successful, and most enjoyable, educational experiences are the times I have taught myself. Would you rather spend years learning something or hours?

For example, in the last couple years I've learned a little bit (emphasis on little) about HTML codes. The only reason: this blog. If I had been forced to take a class on computer code in high school I know I would have hated it. It probably would have been a semester of pure torture. I was a good student, so I would have passed. I would have learned what I needed to and then I would have promptly forgotten everything. Then when I found out blogs use HTML code I might have said, "No thanks! I hate that stuff!". Thankfully, that didn't happen. I started a blog and then learned just what I needed to, when I was motivated, in a short amount of time.

Everyone is different. That is a good thing. Different children have different abilities. All students are NOT equal. One of our teacher friends mentioned recently how sad it was that students don't have a sense of "rivalry" (between school sports teams) anymore. I can think of several reasons things have shifted in this area, one is partly due to the fact that students are told everyone is the same. You can't say you're better than someone else, even if it's true. People are different though, that is just a fact. Some people are not as bright as others. Some will be sanitation workers while others will be doctors. And you know what? That's okay! We need both!

I often think about people's God-given, innate talents. How many people missed their calling because they had to toe the "school" line and never had the chance to branch out and find their own path. Being taught to be the "same" as everyone else is not what I want for my children. If you're hoping for a classless society where all members are perfectly equal then you're hoping for communism.
Reason #6: Socialization... But it may surprise most people to learn that concerns about socialization are one of the most important reasons why we choose tohomeschool.

I don't want my children to be "socialized" in the way most people mean when they ask about this. Dictionary.com says this about socialization: " a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behavior, and social skills...". Socialization is a process that starts at birth and never ends. That process doesn't magically start when a child enters school and it definitely doesn't stop if they stay home!
Reason #7: Shelter. One of the criticisms I get occasionally during discussions about homeschooling is whether or not I’m concerned about the fact that our children are sheltered too much from reality...
Our kids are "sheltered", but isn't that what parents are for? All parents "shelter" their children in some ways whether they go to school or not. Our kids don't see some of the differences that kids in school might see. They don't think that hanging out with your baby brother is lame. They played with a neighbor kid for months before it dawned on them that her skin was a different color. They don't care one bit about what clothes they wear and they don't ever ask for something "because all the kids have one".

Reason #9: Family. Perhaps the most profound reason why we homeschool is our desire to truly appreciate the daily sanctity of family. Time is a precious commodity, and it is much more worthy of family than many of the non-family experiences...
I think it's unfortunate that the mandatory age for schooling just keeps getting younger and pulls kids away from their families earlier. I'm only half kidding when I say that before too long we'll just discharge them from the birthing suite to a learning institution of some sort.

I have absolute confidence that we can properly educate our children within the walls of our own home. Why? Because one on one "tutoring" works. Because we know our children, their strengths and weaknesses, and we love them more than any teacher ever could! No one cares more than we do about whether or not they are successful.
Reason #10: Religion...We homeschool because it is part and parcel of our faith experience. Serving others, praying together, and living lives that are not defined exclusively by the values of our society...
We are not religious nuts. In fact, we aren't part of any "religion". We do, however, have a relationship with Jesus Christ and what we believe, as Christians, has become taboo in the public school system while other religions and lifestyles are freely discussed as part of a "global worldview".

Bonus Reason #11: It's Not All About Fun
My last point wasn't mentioned in the above article but I thought I'd mention it here anyway. I have to chuckle when people say my kids are missing out on all the "fun". Well, since we are talking about school here, I thought the goal was an education!

But don't worry, homeschoolers have plenty of fun. We just took a two week vacation in the middle of the school year! We go on field trips, play sports, and hang out with friends just the same as schooled children. Ourhomeschool group even has their own prom.

Homeschoolers, who feel so led, can do everything their school-attending counterparts do. We definitely aren't missing any fun! We're just having fun (and learning) together as a family. And when it comes down to it... I can't think of anything more important than that. I might regret a lot of things later in my life, but I don't think spending time investing in my children will be one of them.

Friday, July 2, 2010

Good sites for looking into homeschool

I thought these were good web pages for an overview of homeschooling, different types of homeschooling, curriculum etc.




http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/schooling/effective_home_schooling/choosing_a_home_school_curriculum.aspx


http://www.waymarks.com/homeschool/

http://www.home-school-curriculum-advisor.com/home-schooling-method.html

5 top reasons not to choose public school

It's my aim to present all sides of the issue on my blog. Again this is just part of my deep look into all the sides of the issue. ( home, public, private school) Eventually deciding what schooling I'll be using for my kids. I am not inclined to agree with everything in this post, but I am inclined to seriously read it and look into its claims. It's written by a Godly man named Voddie Baucham, author of "Family Driven Faith" , a book I reviewed in a previous blog.


Anyone who has kept up with my blog knows that I am no fan of government education. I have made it a point to carry The Continuing Collapse on a regular basis, and I try to make biblical, philosophical and theological arguments in favor of Christian education as often as possible. However, I recognize the obstacles those of us on my side of the street face. As many as eighty-five to ninety percent of professing Christians send their children to the government for their education. That is simply an astonishing figure considering the fact that the Christian community fought mandatory government education tooth-and-nail for it’s first fifty years of existence. Since then we have gone from fighting against government schools to fighting for them and implying that those who fight against them are fundamentalists, anti-intellectuals, and racists.


In the meantime, our schools grow progressively worse. Well, as we begin this summer, I want to appeal to those of you with children in government schools. Please don’t send them back! I beg you to consider what you are doing. As Dave Black has written:


No academic skepticism, no secularist authors, no blatant materialism can so undermine the spiritual life of the country like the completely secularized training of the child under the authority of the state... Bible-based education is mandatory for Christian parents. If we think we can keep our children in a secular school system and escape the dumbed-down, amoral, and immoral results of secular humanism in schools, we are sorely mistaken (emphasis added, see: http://daveblackonline.com/our.htm).


With that, here are the top five reasons not to send your kids back to government school next year:


5. YOU DON’T HAVE TO


This may sound like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people ask home educators the “authority” questions (i.e., to whom do your report? who approves your curriculum?). These questions are the byproduct of statism. The Gramscian, neo-Marxist influence is so prevalent in our culture that we don’t even recognize it anymore. We actually believe that children are wards of the state when in fact they are not. As a result, some people have a hard time believing that they have the right to educate their children in a manner of their choosing. Well, I’m here to tell you that you are free. Your children are yours. They do not belong to Caesar. You don’t have to take them back to the local government indoctrination center next semester. And in some states (thank God for Texas), you don’t even have to tell them you’re not coming back!


4. AMERICA’S SCHOOLS ARE AMONG THE WORST IN THE INDUSTRIALIZED WORLD


One of the issues that many Christians seem willing to ignore is the fact that sending children to American schools represents extremely poor stewardship. American students continually rank at the bottom in math, science and reading compared to other industrialized nations (see here). That’s right, our educational system is among the world’s worst! Of course everyone says, “Our schools are different.” News flash... that’s a lie!


One of our elders taught honors math at one of the “best schools” in one of the “best school districts” in Texas (you know, one of those schools people lie and cheat to get their children into so that they can get a better education). His advanced geometry class was filled with a bunch of imbeciles who could barely do basic arithmetic. As a result, most of them failed their first major test. You know what happened next. That’s right, the principal called him into the office and told him to make things right. One of the things he was told to employ was a grading technique called “Square root times ten.” Thus, a student who made a 49 on a test ended up with a 70 in the grade book (for those of you who went to government schools like me, that’s the square root of 49 times ten).


This is what’s happening at our “best” schools. Don’t believe me? ask a college admissions worker how many students coming from our “best” schools with grade point averages hovering near 4.0 need remediation when they get to college. It’s an absolute joke. The overwhelming majority of children in our schools have a B average or above (mostly for self esteem reasons), which serves to give them and their parents a false sense of achievement. It also results in people who ‘feel really good’ about their schools.


Please don’t buy the lie. Your child’s school is probably terrible. If you really care about the stewardship of you child’s mind, don’t send them back to the worst schools in the industrialized world next year.


3. AMERICA’S SCHOOLS ARE MORALLY REPUGNANT


The headlines speak for themselves. Student-teacher sex scandals, student-student sex, immodesty, foul language, drugs, alcohol, radical homosexual agendas, teachers taking students for abortions, “sexting” leading to suicide, sexually transmitted diseases, brutal beatings, and school shootings (see here). These are just some of the headlines that have become the norm. And that does not include things like cheating, disrespect for authority, impropriety towards the opposite sex, and other moral behaviors children learn regularly and repeatedly in school. Van Til said it better than I ever could:


“Non-Christian education puts the child in a vacuum…. The result is that child dies. Christian education alone really nurtures personality because it alone gives the child air and food…. Modern educational philosophy gruesomely insults our God and our Christ. How, then, do you expect to build anything positively Christian or theistic upon a foundation which is the negation of Christianity and theism?…. No teaching of any sort is possible except in Christian schools.”


Moreover, the system itself is funded by virtual theft. Homeowners are forced under threat of the loss of their property to pay for the education of other people’s children. How is that appropriate? The government tells everyone that they have to send their children to school, then tells homeowners that they are going to be the ones to foot the bill whether they like it or not. Not only is this a form of welfare, it is also a form of theft.


For those of you ready to read me the riot act and yell and scream about paying for roads and bridges, hold on a minute. Why is it that we get all up-in-arms about our tax dollars being used to fund abortions (while our opponents make the roads and bridges argument), but we don’t see this one? Our schools are morally repugnant. They are also neo-Marxist, secular humanist indoctrination centers. Why should I as a Christian be forced to pay for children to have every vestige of Christianity beaten out of them? Americans are not forced to pay for Mormon schools, or Muslim schools; why should we be forced to pay for neo-Marxist schools (remember, all education is religious in nature)? And why should any Christian contribute to such a system by sending their children to such schools at the expense of others? And before you yell, “I’m just using the tax dollars I spent,” ask yourself if you’re willing to take advantage of all that abortion funding going to Planned Parenthood, or those tax dollars going toward fetal stem cell research.



  1. 2.GOVERNMENT EDUCATION IS ANTI-CHRISTIAN


“I am as sure as I am of Christ’s reign that a comprehensive and centralized system of national education, separated from religion, as is now commonly proposed, will prove the most appalling enginery for the propagation of anti-Christian and atheistic unbelief, and of anti-social nihilistic ethics, individual, social and political, which this sin-rent world has ever seen.”

-A.A. Hodge


Jesus made it quite clear when he said, “Whoever is not with me is against me, and whoever does not gather with me scatters.” (Matthew 12:30 ESV) I am amazed at how many Christians refuse to acknowledge this fact as it relates to the government school system. Our education is either based on biblical truth, or some other truth. There is no such thing as neutrality in this regard. All education is religious in nature. Since it is illegal for students in our government schools to be taught from a Christian perspective, then it follows that they must be taught from a non (or anti) Christian perspective.


As Hodge pointed out, the result of non-Christian education is anti-Christian education. Government schools must be anti-Christian. They can be nothing else. Therefore, to send a child to a government school is to have them trained in an anti-Christian environment for 14,000 instructional hours. To get that much instruction from church a child would have to attend two hours a week for one hundred and forty years!


1. THE BIBLE COMMANDS CHRIST-CENTERED EDUCATION


“This whole process of education is to be religious, and not only religious, but Christian…. And as Christianity is the only true religion, and God in Christ the only true God, the only possible means of profitable education is the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

-Charles Hodge


I recognize that educational antinomianism is the norm in the modern American church. According to the common refrain, “It doesn’t matter what educational choice you make... you just have to pray about it and do what the Lord leads your family to do.” However, I must confess I find this this concept disturbing on a number of fronts. First, this kind of thinking denies the sufficiency of Scripture. The Bible speaks either directly, or principially to every aspect of life. There are no grey areas. Sure, there are things that are difficult to discern, but education is not one of them. Though you won’t find the word ‘education’ in Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance, there are a number of passages that speak directly to the issue of training ourselves and our children intellectually, spiritually, philosophically and morally (See Deut. 6:6,7; Prov. 1:7; Eph. 6:4, etc). We also have numerous warnings against allowing others to influence us intellectually, spiritually, philosophically, and morally (Psalm 1; Rom. 12:1,2; 2 Cor. 6:14ff; Col. 2:8, etc.).


Second, this line of reasoning smacks of mysticism. Instead of making an argument with an open Bible we dismiss all opposition with the flippant, trite, overused, and theologically problem-laden phrase, “we prayed about it and this is what the Lord told us to do.” The lord ‘has spoken’. (Heb. 1:1-2) We are not awaiting new revelation. Instead of doing what the Lord ‘told us’, Christians are commanded to do what the Lord ‘has told us’ in his Word. The London Baptist Confession speaks to this matter rather poignantly:


The Holy Scripture is the only sufficient, certain, and infallible rule of all saving Knowledge, faith and obedience; Although the light of Nature, and the works of creation and providence do so far manifest the goodness, wisdom and power of God, as to leave men unexcusable [sic.]; yet are they not sufficient to give that knowledge of God and His will, which is necessary unto salvation. Therefore it pleased the Lord at sundry times, and in divers manners, to reveal himself, and to declare that His will unto his Church; and afterward for the better preserving, and propagating of the truth, and for the more sure establishment, and comfort of the Church against the corruption of the flesh, and the malice of Satan, and of the World, to commit the same wholly unto writing; which maketh the Holy Scriptures to be most necessary, those former ways of Gods revealing his will unto his people being now ceased.


The Cambridge Declaration states:


We reaffirm the inerrant Scripture to be the sole source of written divine revelation, which alone can bind the conscience. The Bible alone teaches all that is necessary for our salvation from sin and is the standard by which all Christian behavior must be measured. We deny that any creed, council or individual may bind a Christian's conscience, that the Holy Spirit speaks independently of or contrary to what is set forth in the Bible, or that personal spiritual experience [i.e., “the Lord told me”] can ever be a vehicle of revelation.


There’s enough here for an entire series of posts (so many posts... so little time), but for now let me simply say that the “the Lord told me” line of argumentation has serious theological problems. We must make our educational decisions with an open Bible. “The Lord told me” is no substitute for “the Bible says...” Please don’t make a decision about your child’s education without consulting (and obeying) the Scriptures.


This week the SBC hornet’s nest is being stirred up again over the education issue. The last time this happened I was beyond embarrassed as I listened to my esteemed colleagues make illogical, unscriptural, cowardly arguments for “not giving up on ‘our’ schools.” How I long for voices like Hodge, Van Til, and Machen (who called government education a “soul-killing system”) to be heard among my brethren. However, with over eighty-five percent of our children in the government schools and more government school teachers and administrators than any other “denomination”, it is highly unlikely that our side will prevail on this issue any time soon. One wonders what the schools will have to do to our children before we are willing to acknowledge the folly of our choices. In the meantime, I will continue to watch, fight, and pray, and try to convince as many of you as I can to liberate your children from Caesar’s indoctrination camps.


I have quoted John Wesley on this issue in previous posts. However, his words are far too pertinent for me to ignore on this issue:


“Let it be remembered, that I do not speak to the wild, giddy, thoughtless world, but to those that fear God. I ask, then, for what end do you send you children to school? “Why, that they may be fit to live in the world.” In which world do you mean, — this or the next? Perhaps you thought of this world only; and had forgot that there is a world to come; yea, and one that will last for ever! Pray take this into your account, and send them to such masters as will keep it always before their eyes. Otherwise, to send them to school (permit me to speak plainly) is little better than sending them to the devil. At all events, then, send your boys, if you have any concern for their souls, not to any of the large public schools, (for they are nurseries of all manner of wickedness,) but private school, kept by some pious man, who endeavours to instruct a small number of children in religion and learning together.”


I can’t help but wonder if people called Wesley divisive or extremist for making the aforementioned comments. Perhaps not. Perhaps they simply said, “That may be right for you, but it’s not what the Lord told us to do.”


VB

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Guest Blog # 2 Christ vs. Public School Debate

I genuinely loved the fair look into this issue by this blogger.


The link to this blog is....

http://pastorericsmith.blogspot.com


The Christian School vs. Public School Debate

I recently read an article concerning spiritual reasons why Christian children should be sent to a Christian school vs. a public school. The article heavily cites the book by Diane Dekker, Two Trees of Knowledge: A Biblical Case For the Separation of School and State.

The article makes a good point about being unequally yoked with the world in the education of your child, though it is debatable on how much of a 'yoking' really exists between parents and the public school system in actuality, and it is apparently and falsely assumed that no Christian teachers exist in the public school systems.
The article also brings into question parents who think they are sending their children into the public school system (the "devil's camp") to 'make their faith stronger' or to 'defend their faith' and finishes that point with saying that no where in the Bible are people sent into the enemies camp to receive training to make their faith stronger. Also cited in the article is the statistic that Christian kids who attend public high schools tend to abandon the faith by the end of their first year in college to the tune of 75% - 90%.

I have a fairly unique perspective on this matter. I have attended both Christian and public schools as a student, my children have/are attending both, and though I'm a full time pastor I also have the opportunity to be a part-time substitute teacher in the public school system here in my community. I'm certainly not against a Christian school education whatsoever, and in some cases it may be the best place to send one's child. However I have some concerns with some of the article's assertions.

Here are my observations:

1. I think it is falsely assumed that a public school is automatically the devil’s camp and the Christian school is God’s camp – what determines whose camp it is - a Bible class is offered? Does ungodliness abound in the public school? Without question. But the truth is there are ungodly people everywhere we go (even church) and the dirty little secret in Christian schools is that many of its students are just as ungodly as the students in the public school. The main difference is that in the Christian school it's kept on the down low. The students are often as good as wearing their "God mask" as some of their parents are on Sunday mornings.

The deal is - as Christians living on this planet we are aliens no matter where we go. Every ‘game’ for us is a road game. No where in the Bible are we promised an easy road in following Christ - in fact it is described as narrow and difficult. But nevertheless, as a Kingdom believer everywhere I set my feet is God’s property – I live in the victory and authority of Jesus name and by His Spirit I have the ability dictate atmospheres not be buffeted by them.

2. The article mentions not believing the myth of sending our kids to the public in order for them to be 'strengthened' or 'trained' in their faith by having to frequently defend it. My thought here is - if parents are sending their kids to any school to have them 'trained in their faith' they've already dropped the ball. The primary responsibility of passing the baton of faith onto our children rests firmly and squarely on the shoulders of parents. When I send my kids to which ever school - it's not in hopes that they'd be somehow trained in their faith. In fact while at the Christian school just the opposite began to happen - I found myself praying that they would maintain their faith in the lukewarm, faithless atmosphere that permeated their "Christian" school.

Having witnessed the Christian school firsthand – I found that it was just as tough to ‘defend’ the faith in a Christian school as it is/was in a public school - maybe harder because at the Christian school the attack was subversive. Many of the issues I dealt with were with people who supposedly had a relationship with Christ.

Just in case any doubt remained in me about what is going on with many Christian school students - they've been erased as I've seen their Facebook profiles. It's quite sad to see what is said, posted, with some even blatantly stating that they are agnostics and atheists! It could be easily argued that maintaining an on fire, passionate relationship with Jesus Christ is actually MORE difficult in a deluded, pseudo-Christian atmosphere than it is in a blatantly non-Christian environment.

3. The article cites the statistic that around 75% - 90% of Christians kids reject the faith in secular college. The problem is this statistic is an across the board stat for ALL church going kids - regardless of whether they attend a Christian or public school. Again, check their Facebook pages mom and dad - you may have already lost them and not know it yet. Perhaps after that first year of college is when they finally have the guts to let you know.

This very real (and heart breaking) statistic really may be more of a referendum on parents successfully passing a vibrant faith on to their children and perhaps the value of sending our kids to a Christian college rather than which high school the student attended.

The bottom-line is this: Parent's must never take for granted their child's experience with God. Never assume that just because they go to church with you that all is well. Never underestimate the value of them seeing you live your faith out in front of them in a very real and radical manner and never underestimate the value of frequent spiritual conversations and applications in your home. Finally, never rely on a school OR a church for your child's spiritual training - they should only be supplemental to what they learn from you at home. Their soul depends on it.

Guest Post # 1 - Public School Does Not Equal bad parents

This is a blogger I found a little bit ago. She has a great blog and is passionate about the Lord and discipling her daughter. In this blog she says why they are choosing public school right now and encourages her readers that on this issue being obedient to God is the key. One quote that I absolutely love from her blog is this......

"But never, at any point, will we be turning over our responsibility to educate our daughter ... to train her up in righteousness, to give her a solid foundation in the Word, and to oversee her education in every area."

This is part of what I am doing in researching the topics of home, private and public school. Finding various bloggers with personal views and insights on why they choose what they choose for their kids. There will be why I homeschool guest blogs and if I can find them why I send my kids to Christian school guest blogs as well.

This is a link to her great blog....

http://www.pleasingtoyou.com/

Public School Does NOT Equal Bad Parents


I have a pretty wide circle of friends ... both online and in real life. And we have lots of differing points of view on lots of different topics. I try to be pretty neutral here at Pleasing to You about many of those topics which can be very divisive.

But there is something I think needs to be said ...

Sending your children to public school is not a sin.

Now, let me add this, if God has led you to do otherwise, you should certainly be obedient to Him ... but, truly, from my heart, I want to encourage the countless people who have CHOSEN or are in situations that require them to place their children into public schools. God is NOT disappointed in you and you are NOT failing your children spiritually!!

Let me share our story ...

Both Scott and I attended public schools ... good public schools where we received quality educations and were blessed to be surrounded by teachers who were Christians and lived out their faith in front of us. We were raised in communities where faith was an integral part of eveything done and we were blessed to attend churches where we received solid foundations in our spiritual lives.

When we had Casiday, we both had some concerns (I more than he) about placing her in public school. Thus, Casiday's educational journey began at Brunswick Christian Academy when she was three and attended their preschool. She continued there through first grade ... and we were blessed by the many amazing teachers she had and the genuine love for the Lord we saw nurtured and encouraged in her life.

Over the course of her year in first grade, we began feeling the Lord leading us in a different direction. We prayed and both felt an absolute peace about transferring her to public school for second grade. We prayed about all our options and discussed homeschooling for that one year as a transition. But, there was just an overhwhelming sense that God wanted us to place her in public school

We took the heat! From parents of children in Christian school and homeschooling families ... and it was hard. These well-intentioned, kind-hearted individuals were not just questioning our decision ... they were, in effect, questioning our judgment, our spiritual faithfulness, and our ability as parents to do what is best for our child.


But lest you think I am being critical of anyone else, realize this ... six years ago ~ I was the same way! I was so sure and certain that "I" had been granted THE wisdom about the best way to provide for a child's education. And in my confidence, I said things to others about which I have since had to extend an apology, acknowledge my arrogance, and humbly trust that the Lord grants wisdom to ALL who seek it (James 1:5).


Did I struggle with the choice to send her to public school? ABSOLUTELY! I cried the whole way home from leaving her that first day of school. But how God ministered to me and granted me encouragement and assurance that we were, indeed, following His instruction. Her teacher that year was a precious woman who loves the Lord and attends another church in our community. Casiday loved her and second grade was wonderful!

In Casiday's three years in public school, she has had opportunities to live out her faith and impact her classroom in amazing ways! Here are a few ...

In 2nd grade ... She was picked on and teased by a little boy who called her "White Christian Barbie." HER response was to ask me to pray for him ... and we did ... every.single.night. He made fun of her all year long but she was kind and continued to pray.

In 3rd grade ... She was student of the week in her class and got to bring a scrapbook to share about her life. Included, was a picture of her baptism ... for 20 minutes, my child was able to share her faith with her fellow students as they asked her questions about why she got baptized and what it meant. As a parent, I have never been so proud of my daughter as I was that day ... she confidently shared her faith with her peers.

In 4th grade ... We've had a rough year. She and her teacher have not "gelled" ... at. all. But she's got a new best friend. A little girl who lives behind us and is in her class. S is a Jehovah's Witness ... and Casiday has learned to be friends with someone who believes differently than we do. She has shared with S what we believe and why ... and showed her Scriptures about Jesus and how to be saved. Casiday prays for S ... and she treats her with such respect and compassion. Through Christmas, Casiday would unplug the tree in her room when S was over ... if only we could all have such a tender witness to others!! {Oh and that boy from 2nd grade that picked on her is in her class this year ... and he's become quite protective of her! Faithful prayers produce results!}

I'm not saying public school is for everyone, in fact, I am absolutely certain that it is not! I'm saying this ...

There is no universal "right" answer!

We pray every year about what the Lord would have us do regarding Casiday's education ... and every year we are committed to being obedient to whatever He leads. We may end up back in Christian school. We could homeschool. Or we may continue in public school. But never, at any point, will we be turning over our responsibility to educate our daughter ... to train her up in righteousness, to give her a solid foundation in the Word, and to oversee her education in every area.

And we will pray for our many friends and family who are daily carrying out the full measure of instructing their children in their homes. We will lift up those whose children attend Christian schools. And we will undergird those who have made the decision to place their children in public schools.


Because the truth is ... we're all on the same team! And we need to remember that no education method or location is the enemy ... but our enemy certainly wins a battle when he can distract and divide us by such things!!

Please, can we all remember that these are personal decisions ... and that God works in each of us through different means to accomplish His plans in our lives?